Hi, Dr. Robert,

I just wanted to know why boys are so "strange"

when they hit puberty. All these different boys at my

high school are always making sick jokes and

whenever I walk by one of them they don't stare at my

face, but instead my breasts. Just because I'm

"bustier" than most of my friends. One day a whole group

of them were walking together and after they had passed

me I heard one of them say,"That girl's got nice tits."

Why are they soo like that??

Thanks

Liza

Hi, Liza--

A very good question.

I understand your discomfort in having boys stare at your breasts and in having to hear their rude comments about them. I know that this must be embarrassing to you. After all, a girl does not cause her breasts to grow, and has no control over their size. Nature, in the form of genetics, does that, and she has to live with the consequences. One of those consequences is the special attention that a curvy body attracts. Since boys and men are naturally attracted to women’s bodies, they tend to stare at girls and women whose feminine details are especially apparent to them. This is not their fault any more than being "bustier" than some of the other girls is your fault—nature makes all of this happen: both the development of your breasts, and the interest that the male members of the human race have in breasts. Nature (in the form of genetics) causes this to happen so that men will pursue women for sex, giving rise to the next generation of human beings.

The best advice I can give you is to be proud of your developing body, and don’t let anyone make you feel ashamed of it. It is yours, and will be for many years. Eat right, get some exercise every day, avoid tobacco and other drugs, walk tall, and just let your body do what it must—grow into the body of a woman.

Be well.