I am a mother with three young children, two boys ages 7 and 3, and a girl, age 5. I am on my second marriage and pregnant with my second child from this marriage. I love my kids to death and would do anything in the world for all 4 of them. my husband has taken the oldest two as his own and treats them so.
my problem is that I can't show love for my daughter and I don't know why. I know this goes in to something very complex, and I can't get a simple answer to solve this. I am looking for what this problem could stem from. I never had any sort of connection with my dad growing up, and I still don't. he was never there for me. it has just been in the past few years after my brother died that he has shown any interest in my life. my mother has always been the one that has been there and taken care of me when I was growing up.
I can say that I have an issue with females. I don't like the way they manipulate people. most of my friends are male because of this. I am not very feminine and that has caused some minor problems in my marriage as well. my husband takes me for who I am, but there are times that he would like to see me dress up, put make up on, fix my hair, things like that. he has never asked me to change and he won't. that is just the type of person he is. I am the same way. I won't ask him to change because I married him for who he is.
I know this is a very complex matter and I need to get to a doctor that can help me more in this situation; but, if there is any insight you could give me in to what you think could be the problem, possibly give me some ideas of where I could start. I have been very good with being able to solve my "long term" problems in the past once I have figured out where they started; however, this problem has becoming extremely eluding to me.
thank you so much for any help you could possibly give me,
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